1. Eating meat
I’d wanted to give up meat since I was a little kid. Anyone who knows me knows how far-fetched that concept seems. I subsisted on a meat-atarian diet for about 20 years, and yet here I am – nearly 3 months into a vegetarian diet.
I eat so much better than I used to. I am happier about it, living closer to my vision of myself, and feel a lot better about going out to eat with people (even if it’s sometimes hard to find a food option!)
2. Soda
I went on a hard-core water binge when I lived by myself in Muncie two years ago. And there I was – knee deep in the old soda habit late last year. I started drinking a lot of soy milk after I quit meat, and that made things a lot easier.
Mostly, I’m just glad to be away from it. Sticky, sugary, and altogether gross.
3. Facebook
Because I have trouble with self-control. Zadie Smith really turned me around, but at the end of the day I just wanted to feel more connected to people. I hated feeling like a piece of data, and I still do. I don’t think our communications are meant for everyone, and I want to cultivate that truth.
Some decisions you don’t look back on. I haven’t regretted this one for a second. If you want to talk/skype/call/email – I’m here. But I need to talk to you, and you need to talk to me.
4. Twitter
Because, people, I AM WEAK.
I replaced Facebook with Twitter, and I can admit that. At the end of the day, it falls prey to all the same pitfalls – and so do I. Not enough moments in a life, and not enough of them spent making my real life better.
5. Tumblr
Because we will do things that prove we hate ourselves until we stop doing them. Some stones are better left unturned, even if you think you want to know – you don’t.
Leaving tumblr meant making the harder choice. I’m trying to live, incidentally.
6. Pornography
Because I value men and women. Because the re-wiring of the brain makes me nervous. Because the week I quit I asked someone out, and was rejected, and learned how to take chances. Because I would rather be shitty at sex and honest about it than have learned everything about intimacy from a computer screen.
7. Sex
It was indiscriminate and ugly. It was like The Days of Wine and Roses bad, folks. I liked myself less, everyone else liked me less, and I realized that I have an insatiable and powerful appetite for taking. So yes, I tell myself no every morning. And every time I walk down the hall. And every time I go to dinner. I tell myself no a million times a day because if I don’t I lose myself in myself.
Today I am trying to be more than my want.
8. You
“It is the curse of an addict to chase the thing that destroys you.”
– Shane Hawley (Wile E. Coyote – 2010)
“Dear Lord come save me,
the Devil’s workin’ hard,
He probly clockin’ double shifts
on all of his jobs.”
– Kendrick Lamar (HiiiPoWeR – 2011)
I woke up today as an addict.
I will go to bed tonight as an addict.
My addictions do not give me strength,
overcoming them does not give me strength,
I am a man dealing with circumstances within
my control – I am the spirit trying beyond,
beyond the body.
Tomorrow I will wake up.
Tomorrow I will forgive myself.
Tomorrow I will pronounce my own name.
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